“How about you just tried being You…”

DO IT#imperfection is underrated

We spend our lives comparing ourselves to others and their ideas, trying to conform to standards to…”how its supposed to be”…”how it should be”… “That is not how it supposed to look” * they say* according to who I ask?…a bunch of “somebodies” who do not even live up to the same standards they set”…

…Ladies and gents…GIVE URSELF A BREAK….whatever shortcoming you might have, the same person you trying to imitate…or ideal you trying to achieve,  has one too…

We try to be this and that…but who is going to be YOU? …I mean really YOU…the good and the bad…flaws and all 

Excuse me while  I give myself a break…with a kit kat…lol

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Are you living life ‘waiting’ to feel good?…

This is so enlightening

MindMedicine Blog

Most people spend their live their whole life experience in a state of ‘waiting’…

Whether it’s waiting to get what they ‘think’ is a perfect job, what they ‘think’ is a perfect relationship, or whether it’s to become a millionaire, a success, or to achieve some specific goal they ‘think’ will bring them happiness…

It is a constant projection into the future, a constant projection away from where they are…

People constantly ‘think’ they need ‘things’ in order to be fulfilled and at peace inside themselves and the world…

This could not be further from the truth… this is the delusion…

If you are always waiting to feel at peace and fulfilled when you get what you think you want, then that may motivate you to make millions of pounds and to achieve your goal, but even if you do, you will still feel a deep dissatisfaction and disconnection at…

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“Happily ever NOW”

“happily ever afters” only exist in movies….but we can create “happy ever NOWs”

Here are 5 steps….

1. FLAUNTING instead of fixing your flaws…

Quite frankly perfection…ideals are overrated… STOP right now whatever it is that you are trying to fix. If you have a flat nose… let it be…you might just end up without a nose with all that surgery. Let go of all that lightening cream just to make your skin appear lighter….at least no one will be able to tell that you are *blushing* and most people prefer their coffee without milk anyway…oh and please  keep that gap on your teeth open…it makes your smile look interesting.

2. ACCEPTING instead of changing his/her imperfections

…Once we acknowledge our own imperfections, we then need to accept those of others… If he is too short… Let it be…you don’t have to wear flat shoes all the time…ROCK your heels…it does not make him less of a man…if she growls like a pig…let it be…growl with her if need be…

3. TOTALLY IMMERSE yourself in the moment

…Allow yourself to lose yourself in it..whatever it is that you are doing that makes you happy…Don’t over think it…just let it be….shut the world out, it brings unnecessary negativity…Don’t just let it be another occurrence…make it a Moment…

4. DON’T COMPARE it to a movie scene

Movies follow scripts…real life follows instincts…so Don’t compare…that scene you saw was rehearsed and edited….Embrace the moments you have for what they are…not for what they could be or should be…remove all expectations…Don’t be upset if he doesn’t say what you want him to say.

5. DON’T  RUSH it, take your time

The best things in life should be slowly savored…so take your time…allow yourself to take the time to enjoy your time….experience it to its fullest…Don’t rob yourself…

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“I love my unshaven legs”

Week after week month after month we go through that excruciating process of shaving and waxing….

How about if we just let our bodily hair be…would it be so bad…?Image

Its a bright and sunny day you want to rock your mini skirt with that sexy spaghetti top….eish then you look in the mirror and your under arms have grown a mini bush of hair  …then you try to convince yourself that you can keep your arms down the whole day (haha think again), you know someone is going to want hug you….maybe put some baby oil to flatten down the hair on your legs….*hmmm maybe not*…you go to the bathroom … those blades and hair removal creams are staring at you ….then slowly that dreaded process begins again… ouch! ouch! ouch!

But here is a well-known celebrity “Mo’Nique”, who despite popular beauty standards especially in the celeb world where there so much pressure to look a particular way, she  refuses to shave her legs….I read an article about her once regarding this and I thought “WOW” how bold, how daring, how different…it is totally not ideal  yet she refuses to conform…To the world it seems undesirable, imperfect, dirty but to her its beautiful, sexy…she works those legs…she struts her body and  exudes confidence while doing it….How inspiring…how brave …how important….what an example….

It made realize that when one truly embraces their quirks, or what seems like a flaw to others…confidence, contentment and self love become  permanent imprints to your self esteem…yes they will try to break you with their harsh comments; which by the way  are merely reflections of their inner struggles ….but you smile and look at them because you are happy and fulfilled…you don’t need anyone’s validation…and soon they begin to accept you because you have accepted yourself….

You go girl…flaunt those unshaven legs….

If Mo’Nique can do it so can you

#cheerstomyhair

You can caress my hair at your own risk…

But why you gotta touch my hair…?

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Classic movie moment

Caught up in the moment…glaring at each other like love sick puppies…whispering sweet nothings to each other…then guy extends his hand over to his lady’s love hair…caressing it slowly and gently…up and down….hmmm *sigh* beautiful isn’t it…Movie sell us dreams I tell you…

I and a few of my girlfriends however find this gesture to be rather uncomfortable…and for some reason guy wants to caress your hair on your worst hair day…like when your weave tracks have loosened to the point that they could fall out at any minute…or when you have so  much hair growth that not even a straightener can help out…hahahahaha worse your braids are hanging right at the end of your hair tips that one touch could result in a one way trip to the bottom of the floor….oh and how can we forget that dandruff  that is comfortably chilling on your scalp with no intention to go any where but to sit and  absorb the moisture *yikes*…then guy wants to caress you with all of that….ooohhh and  his fingers get tangled up … suddenly there is a tug of war  with my hair… hold up one sec lover boy….*not romantic*…

So we can glare at each other and whisper sweet nothings but can we just leave my hair out of it…I’ll caress yours instead but only you have a brush cut…

*excuse me while I sort out my hair*

#hairdrama